Say Hello!

So the tidbits from Cambodia continue...just like in any culture, Cambodian culture has typical ways to greet people. For us Americans--we have the "Hey, how's it going?," a smile, maybe a handshake and some small talk. In Cambodia, a greeting is often accompanied by a gesture (as seen above) called a sampeyar. Similar gestures are used in cultures in India and elsewhere in Asia. In Cambodia, the hands are held flat, with palms together, in front of the center of the body. This is done by both the greeter and the person or people being greeted, often at the same time, and often while words of greeting are spoken (the equivalent of our "Hello, how are you? I'm fine"). There are many subtle variations of the gesture: holding the hands at chin level, at nose level, at forehead level, bowing the head slightly or bowing to a greater or lesser extent from the waist. These variations are meant to convey differences in respect, based on the relative positions of the greeter and greetee in society. You show more respect to those who have a higher position than you, and less to those below you. In general, the higher the hands are held and the deeper the bow, the more respect is being shown. For example, an child greeting an adult would hold the hands higher on their body. The variations are subtle and take time for an outsider to learn. This may seem complex, but consider our own culture: we greet people differently based on whether they are old friends or new aquaintances, our boss or those we supervise, family members or restaurant wait staff. These differences are subtle as well and are difficult for outsiders to categorize: how brightly should you smile? give a handshake or a hug? a delicate hug or a bearhug? should the person be addressed as sir or m'am, or not? do you greet an individual differently than a group? what variations are acceptable for personal preferences?

One of the challenges of entering a new culture is realizing just how much of our lives and actions are dictated by culture--and how differently things can be organized in each culture. Entering a new culture requires one to relearn all their cues for how to live--from the subtleties of how to greet someone or say goodbye, to traffic laws and shopping etiquette. Adjusting to the loss of familiar cultural cues and struggling to learn a vast set of new ones leads to what is commonly called culture shock or culture stress. This learning goes deeper than learning a new set of behaviors--values and worldviews are vastly different in each culture as well. Entering a new culture brings these deeper differences to the forefront, and brings up many questions as well: do I value something only because of my culture? Does my original value mesh or clash with the values of my new culture? Is either of these values consistent with Biblical values, or both, or neither, or something in between? and so on.